From the bottom of my heart I sincerely love sharing this knowledge with you and it truly fills me with such immense appreciation knowing that this information is inspiring you to live a better life.
To those of you who have reached out to me and shared how this is helping you, I truly am so incredibly grateful, I honestly do feel the love.
I sincerely thank you so very much and if I were able to give you a big squishy hug I would!
Now let’s get into it.
Last week we spoke about how important your Feelings are.
Now I’m not into talking about negative stuff, I’m well aware like attracts like, but this week I really want you to understand the power reacting has over your life.
Reacting is a very common way of living in this competitive fast paced world. We go about our lives in such a rush we don’t even spare a thought on the energy we are vibrating out or how we are reacting to what is happening around us.
The issue a lot of the time is, we are unintentionally conditioned from a very early age (by well meaning and loving parents) to live in quite a negative reactive way, without even realising it is happening to us.
A lot of our parents grew up in times of severe lack, they may have gone without the basics in life, while others lived grand and opulent lives. So, it did in fact become a world of the haves and have not’s, and as their parents noticed this reality as they struggled to make ends meet, it was instilled even more so on them, we can’t afford this, we can’t afford that, eat all your food on your plate or you’ll be eating it for your next meal. You’ve heard it all before.
Now if you were on team “have not”, there was a good chance your belief system was shaped on this lack, on the hidden jealousy secretly carried by those who had not, on fear there wasn’t enough and greed when you got something, it became your prized possession it was yours and you weren’t letting it go or sharing it, because that’s all you have, and I understand, but the next thing you know those beliefs are passed down from one generation to the next, so what happens to the next generation?
They then take on those negative beliefs as their own, and grow up thinking there isn’t enough, that they have to fight and scrimp and save for everything they get. When in actual fact there is infinite supply within our world. There is enough for everyone to live the life they dream of.
The reality is we’ll never use everything up, because the majority of people are stuck living in lack, saving and hoarding everything they possibly can. You see not everyone carries dreams within them, or even believes it is possible. They are still carrying around that belief that the rich get richer and the poor get poorer.
They’re then bombarded reading, watching and listening to the lack, hate and greed broadcast multiple times a day on hundreds of different stations so you don’t miss a single bit of lack or fear, and what does all this do…
Why it just helps to keep those negative beliefs embedded in strongly so the mere thought of a happy abundant filled, incredible life is just some far off pipe dream that only happens to greedy rich people.
People believe they are living in an unsafe world, they believe it’s getting worse and filled with more hate than ever, where everything they own has to be protected and claimed or you will lose it or someone will steal it from you. It is with these limiting beliefs instilled and embedded into our subconscious that we grow these behaviours of competing or fighting for everything. Living in this reacting mode because we think life is happening to us instead of us creating our own love filled happy, abundant life.
If we’re not directing our thoughts or intentions of the life we want to lead, if we’re just allowing the universe to deliver to us whatever is in the neighbourhood, (or on whatever channel we’re mindlessly watching) we can end up finding ourselves in situations we really don’t enjoy or want to be in.
Something as simple as being cut off in traffic, then getting all cranky and aggressive is an awesomely powerful way to turn your law of attraction in the wrong direction.
You see when we go through life reacting to events in a negative way all we are doing is setting ourselves up for more negative things to come into our life.
If someone does us wrong and we decide we’re not going to stand for it, and we’re going to get back at them, this is the same. With that passionate intent to do someone wrong, you are only going to do wrong to yourself, sure you may get back at them, but don’t think that boomerang isn’t coming back at you!
It’s not up to us to serve punishment or justice on another, we all came into this world of our own free will, and we all carry our own free will with us, it’s entirely up to us what we do in our life.
Sure, there are rules to help us live a safer life in harmony with others, but it’s people free will if they decide to follow or go against those rules and create circumstances that aren’t of a positive light.
No one can stop them from doing it, it is simply their free will to do it. That doesn’t give us the right to dictate and tell or control or manipulate another to do as we say or think, just as it is not up them to do the same to us.
We can choose to follow another’s rules or what they say or instruct us to do, no one is really making us, at the end of the day it is a choice we make within us.
Just as we can’t make our teenage children do what WE want them to do, sure if we wanted to we could bribe and manipulate them, enforce strict curfews and rules upon them, but this will only come back against us and create more tension in our lives, or we can offer the suggestion of what we feel would be in their best interest for their safety and happiness so they are aware of the options available, but at the end of the day they will still make the decision for themselves.
We can choose to understand that they are learning to live their life on their way to adulthood, and making their own decisions or we can react, or in many cases over react to the choices they are making and then by doing so we turn our own law of attraction in the wrong direction and things simply start going the wrong way for us. And then we wonder why life sucks so much for us.
It all comes down to how we are dealing with what is going on in life.
It all comes down to reaction.
You could have something terrible happen to you or a loved one, now you can choose to stay in that negative vibration of the situation and carry it around for the rest of your life as you have every right to do if you choose.
Or you can choose to not stay stuck in it, you can choose to use that situation to pivot your life in a more positive direction and create something truly wonderful for yourself and inspire others and help others rise above their similar traumas.
It’s just like we’ve got this large sack we’re carrying over our shoulder. Each negative reaction to an event, issue, circumstance is like a pebble we are putting in that sack and having to carry over our shoulder each and every day for the rest of our life.
Or if we do choose to move on, if we choose to use the event as contrast and we do indeed choose something in the opposite direction of a positive vibration and don’t let the negative situation define us or take hold on our life, we’re then throwing pebbles out of the sack and the weight and burdens are lessened, our life is easier and happier.
That first choice will only lead us to more and more negative circumstances because the reality of the law of attraction is, what we vibrate out to the world is what is going to come back to us.
See I just don’t think the majority of us carry any awareness of the power of our reactions and how they shape our lives.
It’s not something we are taught in schools or as children unless of course we have parents who are enlightened enough to understand this law.
What can we do to not re act?
What can we do to start sailing a smoother course?
What can we do to live a more enjoyable fulfilled life?
Here’s a few suggestions for everyday blah blah that may get you down with a negative reaction.
How about next time someone cuts you off in traffic you send them blessings, give them a smile, a tilt of your head, wish them well, feel the love and blessings in your heart and wish them a wonderful day.
Instead of raising your middle finger at them and screaming obscenities, give them a little wave and send them love, it may not of been intentional, they may have never travelled that road before, they may be lost, they may be so stressed out and full of anxiety they have no idea what they are doing, I highly doubt it was personal, but just remember, you can’t control the way they act, so tailgating them for the next 10 miles is going to do nothing positive for you except rile you up even more.
Does it really matter if you’re now going to arrive at your destination a few seconds later? Like really in the grand scheme of things, will it really?
What about if someone is rude or nasty to you, or talking unkind words behind your back? Just understand that this is within them, it is not a reflection on you, how you react is a reflection on you. Again, feel the love in your heart, wish them all the best, send them love. The poor soul probably needs a bloody big hug and someone to genuinely care about them, so send a bit their way and honour yourself and remove yourself from the situation.
Let’s say in you chosen career you have competition and they are completely rocking their career, getting noticed by the big bosses at all the right times and you aren’t, you feel invisible, worthless. Don’t be an ass, be happy for them. If you want to get to that same place they are and have others congratulating you and complimenting you on a job well done, use the law of attraction, it’s always working, the trick is to just steer it in a positive direction to your advantage. Vibrate the energy to that person of what you would like to receive.
The simple fact is greed and jealousy will get you nowhere, and if it does, there’s a good chance when you get there you won’t be happy, and there won’t be anyone by your side congratulating you on it.
What about when your child is pushing your buttons, understand they’re young, they are trying to work this life thing out just as you did before them, and they won’t always want your help to figure it out. They want to be like their parent and do it themselves. Monkey see, monkey do. 😉
When you look back on your life, some of your best lessons learnt were from mistakes you made along the way, this is when they were embedded in the strongest in you and for that reason you have those memories to look back on to steer your life in a direction that is pleasing to you.
By looking at the issue from this stand point, you will be more inclined to give your child that benefit too, so get down off your mighty high horse and let them be that fine young person they truly are, let them be that explorer, discovering who they are, trying to figure it out, so they have those memories to recall later on when they find themselves in that same circumstance.
Look as a mother of a child with autism this has been one of my greatest hurdles I have had to overcome. I thought just because I always did as my parents told me that my child should follow suit and was being down right rude and disrespectful by not.
But the fact is she doesn’t see the end message as I did, she doesn’t carry or feel the fear projected to her from another’s word (which like many of us was usually from a good intentioned, overprotective loved one) a lot of the time she actually needs to physically be in that circumstance so she is able to create her own set of coping skills of it and embed this in her for her later understanding (sometimes not, and it will happen again, but I guess unless we see it as a danger it is of no concern to go through it again, and just so you know I never leave her in situations where she could be harmed or in danger). But it all comes down to what we are conditioned to deal with, what we think we can handle going through again and again.
So, the easiest way I can help you to understand this lesson is to simply chill out, or as the cool kids say, chillax, don’t take life so hard and seriously.
From a recovering people pleasing, perfectionist and someone who has struggled with mental illness most of my life, you simply can’t control everything, you can’t control circumstances, you can’t control people, you have no control over anything except yourself and how you react to the what goes on.
When something does take place that would push your buttons and fire you up in a negative way, think and ask yourself…
“Will this event actually matter in 5 years’ time, 12 months’ time, 1 months’ time or even tomorrow, will it really matter or will my energy I’m putting into make it a matter?
A lot of the time the only person we are truly causing harm to is our self, by carrying the stress and weight of a situation we aren’t getting back at the perpetrator, it doesn’t load their sack with extra pebbles, we are in fact causing this discomfort and overwhelm of the heavy load to ourselves.
So that’s what reacting can do for you!
Yep it was a bit deep and heavy but as you can see, it can play an incredibly overpowering role in our lives without us even knowing or understanding, and when we truly get a grip on it, our world can literally change overnight.
As promised I’ve created a couple of free posters you can print out, hang up, use as a screen saver, whatever works for you to remind you of your power, to remind you it’s your choice, it’s your free will to do as you choose.
As always, I am sending you so much love and blessings, and wishing you so much happiness and love on your path.
Thank you, once again sweet souls, I look forward to next week.