Hello hello beautiful sparkly souls, I’m back! I know it’s been a couple of weeks, but my soul’s batteries needed to be recharged, bubbly needed to be drank, and hangovers apparently needed to be experienced hahaha, but look out, it’s time to get creating!!
Heads up, it’s time to get real, it’s time to dig deep, so there may be some ouchy moments that really hit home in this post today.
Are you ready? Are you truly ready to start enjoying life?
Or… Do you want to keep spending your life bullshitting to yourself that it’s not possible to get any better than it is now?
Do you continually catch yourself or maybe not even notice telling yourself that you’re destined to live a boring mundane life?
Do you feel deflated, like life is just too big for you to get a grip on?
I don’t say that lightly!! It’s time to get real!!
I have sat in the lowest of lows, I know how much mental illness can quite frankly, fuck you up. It sits on my shoulders daily! I could easily without any effort sit on the couch all day numbed out watching mindless shit on the TV never amounting to anything, living an ungrateful life, bitching and moaning about everything and everyone.
But you know what? I want more, I choose more!!
I’ve tasted life when I am in control of ME and my thoughts and I gotta say the flavour is so much tastier then letting life push me around!
Sure, I still have my shitty days, I don’t think depression can ever really be cured, but we can certainly show it who the boss is.
And that goes for all parts of our lives.
How many of you are sitting out there just being a pleasant little doormat to people?
How many of you are still stuck in ultimate Nice Guy status, because you think if you don’t keep running after everyone you’ll be all alone with no friends, or you won’t be respected…
Umm hello, if you’re there to continually run after people whenever they call or demand it of you they are in control, not YOU!!! And there’s a good chance their level of respect for you isn’t what you actually think it is by being their slave.
Ouch that hurts doesn’t it, when we actually admit shit like that.
Don’t worry, you’re not alone, as I’ve said in previous posts, I was there for a very LONG time, which is exactly why I’m here hopefully throwing a bit of light on your path.
Now I’m not saying go and start a crazy demonstration telling the world you are worthy, it’s an inside job, it’s got nothing to do with anyone else, it’s just that you think it has.
You see all the words in the world don’t mean shit unless YOUR actions match up. You can put all the posts you want all over social media telling the world you deserve to be treated better, but until YOU are treating YOU better, don’t expect any change from them.
My question to you is are you tired of it?
Are you tired of being treated like a second rate citizen?
Are you tired of no one actually giving a shit about you?
Are you tired of just being tired of your life and the shitty circumstances you’ve ended up in?
My next question is, do you think you are worthy of being treated better?
That’s a big tricky question, and one that always had me stumped. WHY?
Well I always seen myself as a loving, caring, helpful person, so I just naturally thought people would treat me nicely because of it. But that is where so many of us gentle loving souls get stuck!!
Because if you don’t actually FEEL that YOU are worthy, if you don’t actually LOVE YOURSELF, how in the hell are you ever going to expect other people to treat you any better?
You see if you want to be in charge of you, YOU have to set the ground rules for how people treat YOU. And by setting rules, I’m not talking write out a list and expect people to follow it, because again, helllloo, they’re just words.
You know that old saying “Monkey See Monkey Do”
That pretty much sums up who we are as humans.
We are vibrational souls, with or without knowing it, we communicate with others on a vibrational level, which is why you just can’t get enough of some peeps, and others repel you at first meeting.
If you ain’t vibing with someone, it’s gonna be pretty uncomfortable and life is gonna suck if you stay there noticing all the things you don’t like.
So if you’re getting the absolute shits with how people are treating you, it may just be time to change your vibration and see how that rolls for you.
You can’t change other people, you can only change the way you react to other people.
But the thing is if you raise your vibration, there’s a good chance you won’t even be hanging with people who are treating you badly or shitting you to tears! Because you simply won’t vibe with each other and it will be too uncomfortable to stay around them any longer.
The reality is, this is really the only way you’re ever going to be treated differently. It doesn’t matter where you go, until you up YOUR vibration and show the world how YOU want to be treated by truly loving and respecting yourself, you will continually be treated the same.
You gotta “Walk the Talk” baby!!
So, question time…
Can you look in the mirror and truthfully say to yourself “I AM WORTHY”?
Can you truthfully look yourself in the eyes and tell yourself “I LOVE YOU”?
Chances are if you can’t, there’s a good chance other people are treating you exactly the same way!
It cuts pretty deep I know. I’ve been there, I literally had no self worth or love, and couldn’t for the life of me work out why people treated me the way they did. I was so nice and caring and helpful to everyone and it got me absolutely no where!
All I wanted was for people to like me and be nice to me!
But enough about me.
I really want to drum something into your head…
YOU ARE WORTHY!!!
You are worthy of so much love and so much abundance of all the magic life has to offer!!
True shit, I’m not making this up!! YOU ARE!!!
I know, I know, I harp on about that so bloody much, but seriously, you NEED to get that into your head, like really get it into your head!!
Unless you understand and feel you are worthy you will never reach that trippy rainbow and lollipop land. And look I know that land isn’t a constant. Even living life in the positive way I do now, I get down, I’m sure we all get down from time to time, but how long do you plan on staying down?
How long do you plan on just seeing all the shitty stuff in life that has you whinging and complaining like a miserable cow?
Seriously, let’s get serious…
How many times a day do you complain and whinge about shit?
Yep I get that life can be an absolute bitch, but it ain’t gonna get any better if all you see is shit to whinge about, and focus all your energy on it!! (remember like attracts like, where are you putting your energy and thoughts?)
If you’re feeling like it’s time to make a change, if you’re feeling like it’s time to stop wasting your life on petty, negative bullshit then listen up!!
It’s time to get real with ourselves.
It’s time to dig deep and throw out all the bullshit we carry about ourselves!
Who we were is NOT who we are now!! Let me say that again….
Who we were is NOT who we are NOW!!
We are ever evolving, we don’t stay the same for our entire life, we grow, we discover, we work shit out about ourselves, we are constantly changing, we are constantly evolving if we like it or not.
Everyday day of your life you are experiencing new and different circumstances, sure sometimes it seems like the same old mundane shit as it always has been, but you can choose to make it fun and exciting for you!
Everyone fucks up! It’s a part of life, it’s a part of being a human here on this planet, we’ve all made shitty choices in life that may of hurt ourselves or others, but seriously how long are you gonna carry that shit with you??
It’s heavy, it’s boring, it’s depressing and you don’t deserve it… oh unless you think you do, in which case you’re kind of wasting your time listening to me waffle on.
And personally I don’t think it’s a great conversation starter if you’re trying to vibe with happy loving people, ya hear what I’m saying?
You can be more, you can raise your vibration higher and attract the tribe you truly want, but you’ve gotta bring yourself along to match what you’re looking for.
So have a think about the qualities you enjoy in others.
Are you vibing the same? Do you actually match what you’re wanting in others?
Take notice of your self talk.
Sounds simple enough doesn’t it?
Notice the vibe of your self talk. Do you feel good or bad about things you are saying to yourself? Because gorgeous soul, this is the vibe you are putting out to the world.
So if you’re continually telling yourself that whatever you do isn’t good enough, you’re pretty much sending that out vibrationally to anyone and everyone. Letting them know that whatever you do isn’t good enough! So then you get yourself into that shitty cycle of over compensating and doing way more shit for everyone else to get their approval!
Ouch Julie, that hurt too!!
If this is the case for you, how bout turning that around on yourself.
How about letting yourself know just how awesome you truly are, imagine if that seeped out to the world?
Imagine if everyone else seen how awesome you were too!!
Louise Hay was the master of affirmations. She truly set the bar high with the incredible life changing work she left behind here on earth. Bless her gorgeous soul!!
I love how one of the first exercises she gave people was for them to approve of themselves.
I was listening to a podcast recently by Robert Zink, Robert and his wife Rachel are FAB-U-LOUS!! Check out their stuff here. Anyway Robert was saying that we think about 60 000 thoughts a day!! How crazy is that!!
So how many of your 60 000 thoughts are negative?
How many are negative thoughts about YOURSELF?
Think about it, when you are worrying about something, how many times does that thought go through your mind?
Louise Hay suggested repeating the affirmation “I APPROVE OF MYSELF” three or four hundred times a day. Now that may seem a lot but in the grand scheme of 60 000 thoughts a day, 300-400 really doesn’t sound like much, does it?
Why not set the bar high and do this for yourself this week, I love to hear from you and if you had any shifts or noticed any changes with it.
Remember it does not matter one single fuck what others think of you, it is only what you think of you that matters!!!
So if you catch yourself in that negative self talk this week try saying to yourself, “I approve of myself”
As always, thanks so much for reading along, I do sincerely appreciate being able to share with you.
Sending you bucket loads of love and blessings beautiful. xx